Service Guidelines
It is essential to read, understand and apply it in your practice while using introduction service.
( 1 ) Understand the nature of joining YPP is to increase the scope of your search for a partner. Introduction service, unlike purchasing a finished product where everyone gets the same product in hand for the same price, is to provide you the opportunity to meet people who can become your potential partners. People you choose have to choose you, in other words, who you are and your effort form 50% of the success.
( 2 ) You must be fully committed. Trust and have faith with our service even in the situation you haven't met the right person after some time. Our practice shows clients who make the strongest commitment in cooperation with YPP and other clients always achieve the best and quickest results.
( 3 ) “Patience is a virtue". It usually takes six months to one year for an average person to get final results. It varies individually. Some clients have got married with the first or second person they met; and some stayed on the list for a few years before the right person came along. If you prepare yourself to be relaxed and happy, and wait for that person, you will be in a good position to succeed.
( 5 ) Avoid high expectations Set up your mind " to meet new friends ". Never judge your contact at first meeting whether he or she will be your future partner. Friendship is the foundation of a lasting relationship. Let things go naturally. Meet each person at least twice or more unless you have very bad feeling from the first meeting. Even if sparks do not fly with the person you have been matched with, they have a lot in common with you and will have friends that may be just what you are looking for. Enlarge your social network; be friendly and enthusiastic. Make the most of each contact.
( 6 ) Avoid lengthy conversation on initial phone call. Telephone conversations or photographs do not always give an accurate impression of most people. Most of us feel nervous or shy in the beginning. Most males are not comfortable to talk on the phone, especially with someone they haven’t met. The only purpose of your initial phone call with each other is to arrange the first meeting. Lengthy phone conversations before first face-to-face meeting always results in disappointment when real meeting takes place. If the other party insists to have long conversation, you should remind him or her by saying "Let's meet and talk". We send you profile of the other person beforehand, so you should already know something about each other. There is no need to ask questions about their occupation etc. Asking too many questions before meeting generally is off putting to the other side.
- We do not give out clients’ last name, home number or address. You can exchange details at anytime with your contact. You need each other’s mobile phone number before first meeting – you may need to change meeting arrangements. Bring your mobile phone with you when you go for the meeting. Ensure it is charged and SWITCHED ON so you can contact each other for any unexpected situation e.g. running late due to heavy traffic.
- Make sure arrangements are clear – there could be a big crowd around. Be decent enough to attend the meeting. Do not meet at home for the first meeting.
- Arrange first meeting for a short duration e.g. coffee, stroll, brunch/lunch to see how it goes. Make your next meeting arrangement at the end of the meeting if you feel strong connections.
- On no account should you ever retreat from a meeting before making contact. This is particularly demeaning and you wouldn’t appreciate the same happening to you.
- Avoid topics which achieve negative results. The following topics of conversation can be a real “turn off”
- Problems or negative criticism (e.g. Work, friends, etc)
- Past relationships, settlement and child custody.
- Dealings with the agency or previous contacts.
- Any topics, which can cause negative impressions on the other person.
Remember that you are meeting each other for potential future happiness together. Nobody will be keen on knowing about your ex-partners whether you miss them or hate them. Your kids are your love of life; however you do not need to inform your new potential partner at the first meeting unless you want to ask them "Are you ready to be the second priority in my life ". Going straight to the topic of your kids and ex is another way to show "I am not available for you!"
( 8 ) What Do You Talk About? Choose the subject which involves information about the person you meet so he or she can feel special. You will get to know as much as you can about them i.e. their background, friends, experiences, opinions and values.
( 9 ) On no account should you ever retreat from first meeting once the introduction is arranged. This is particularly demeaning and you wouldn't appreciate the same happening to you.
(10) Look beyond initial physical attraction. Physical attraction is important. It initiates enthusiasm of getting to know the other person. However, it is not an essential element in the foundation for a long-term successful relationship. Many happily married couples were actually not physically attracted when they first meet. The attraction, which comes out after you know each other, is realistically more reliable (recommended book Are You the One for Me by Barbara De Angeles). Try to avoid the habit of "lust at first sight". Don’t allow a false impression to dampen the start of a very successful relationship. We suggest meeting each contact two or three times at least before making judgment whether to carry on.
(11) Rejections Never take it personal; everyone gets rejections and gives rejections in some stage of life. Dating through YPP is not a competition or test for your ability to conquer or win. Rejection simply means this person is not right for you. But someone else will come along. You only need one person as your partner. The purpose of dating through YPP is to enlarge your social networking in your path of finding that right person; move on. Meet the next person. Someone else will come along in due course. It is a matter of time and practice.(12) Your feedback and communication contributes to you success. It is important to report back to us your feelings and impressions of your contact. It's compulsory to have your feedback after initial meeting with each contact. Apart from our interview with you, in the beginning of your program process, we need more information from you to assess what kind of person is compatible with you. This is to ensure that we search for the right contacts for you. We also suggest you to keep in touch with us while you are dating, so you can receive assistance from our service and avoid making mistakes in dating. Our ongoing support with dating tips.
(13) More benefit from your communication with YPP. We request you to respond to individual emails and messages you received as well as communicating your feelings with us about your contacts. Some of you may not be used to this. However communication is a key to your success in dating and marriage. You can take it as your first step to practice and brush your skills. Remember, our service is based on a two-way communication process. We are not just selling some contact numbers to you, and then forget you; you are a project. Finding a compatible partner for you is the goal. It takes effort.
(14) Be open and honest with your contacts. If you like the person you meet, let her (him) know. They will appreciate it and respond easily if the feeling is mutual; there is no need to wait for the “chase " as you stand at the same level in this fashion of meeting. If you don’t feel any possibility to pursue with the contact any further, try to be diplomatic, not to hurt the person’s feelings. You can say: “I shall contact you later”, then contact our consultant, so we can do the job for you. If you would like to let the other person know you are not interested, it is better to tell the truth: “It is really nice to meet you, but I don’t feel we are quite compatible…” Never make up reasons such as “I have a boyfriend (girlfriend)” or “I am not ready for a relationship…” “I am too busy…” These comments can only have negative effect on the person you meet, as well as create a negative image for our service.
(15) Ring for intro whenever you are available Always inform YPP when you are available for new contacts. We assume that you do not require another contact unless you phone and keep in touch.
(16) Keep us informed of your new details when:
- your personal details such as phone number, email address and address have changed;
- you are going on holiday; you have met someone through other venues;
- unavailable temporarily because other reasons; busy work schedule; family issues. etc.
Make sure to do this even after your membership expired. So we could keep you on our active list for your future contacts. For example, when we come across someone who is exactly the person you look for; or when you become single again. Never close doors which can be your options in life!
(17) Attend Our Social Functions. Our functions are part of our service for members. At the functions, you can meet people in a relaxed atmosphere. Apart from some members, you also meet friends and associates of our members as well as people from other social networks. We go through a lot of trouble to organise functions with the aim of you meeting more potential people. It is highly recommended that you attend functions as much as possible to use the service to the maximum. Bookings to the functions are taken as firm arrangement.
My great pleasure is to hear my clients telling me that they are happy, or engaged to have a future together.